Discovering The Creator's Design in Marriage, by Karen Rowe June 10, 2015

Let us begin with prayer, 



Father, Help us understand your message to us.  Reveal your Word to us in a very special way!  I praise you and thank you for all you have been doing in my own marriage after all of these years!  I pray that those who read this will receive the same beautiful and powerful blessings in their life; and in their marriage and family!  In Jesus Name we pray, Amen.



June (2015) Last week:  My Facebook status began:


Learning how to be a good wife after 20 almost 30 years with Robert Rowe. I prayed for God to help me be a good helper as God has designed me to be...."watch out Robert Here is comes" lol fail hee hee; and then God begins to teach me!

NEXT, God gave me a revelation with two magnets! Later, Rob explained the scientific to my discovery of how God created us to be ...



Two likes can't lead the same....one has to be submissive! 


Don't understand? Grab 2 magnets & find a good man of God to love and pray ... God will bless your marriage, family & ministry beyond comprehension!



Thinking on this Revelation that God has given me...

Let's be Scientific for a minute and discover things about God's Creation!

  • Just as The Created Earth produces its own magnetic field, which is important in navigation, and it shields the Earth's atmosphere from solar wind (From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia) ...Marriage can be better understood in how a man is designed by God to be a protective covering to the woman he is drawn by God to marry!  We can learn what our function is in a marriage and excel in LIFE with GOD!

Let's continue to be scientific for a little while longer; and as a diver puts on his gear to go under the water to discover things about what is already Created, we can discover things about God's Love!

Magnetism is a force of attraction or repulsion that acts at a distance.  Two magnets will be attracted by their opposite poles, and each will repel the like pole of the other magnet.


  1. Attraction

    When two magnets or magnetic objects are close to each other, there is a force that attracts the poles together.


  2. Repulsion

    When two magnetic objects have like poles facing each other, the magnetic force pushes them apart.



This is a beautiful teaching that God has revealed to me in a way that 2 Like magnets can demonstrate in a way that we can better understand that God has blessed marriage between two equal beings (man and woman), but not equal in our function in a marriage that is ordained by God!


I hope you stay with me for a little while as I depend on God's help to get this out of the inside of me and on to this screen to read well!   I have SO much to SHARE, because of all the teaching that I have received from God in my own marriage.  


I have changed and seen the miracles!!!


We CAN go to the Creator and can be assured that God is our Help and our Shield in all things!  Seek and find ... 

Seek (Truth) and find (Truth) ... We can discover Creation and learn the Way to live LIFE blessed in all things!  


Today we are focused on marriage!!!


Before we begin, in all things we must believe!   To understand Spiritual things, we need Jesus!  I am convinced first we must believe:   "In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth (Genesis 1:1)." God draws us near by HIS Holy Spirit; and enables us to believe HIS testimony about HIS Son (John 3:16-17; Ephesians 2:81 John 5:9-11)


Are you willing to seek the Truth about all things through God's eyes?


If you are not sure of your relationship with God through His Son, Please go to this link and pray with me:

God SO loved you that He gave His Son for you -BUT, do you Believe?  By Karen Rowe June 08, 2015



First, let me say thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to join me!  I am glad you are here!!!


If you went to the link to pray, we are happy!  God will reveal his knowledge to you in a very special way through Jesus who now lives in you!  Ask God to open your eyes and ears to gain your knowledge from HIM and for your understanding to come from God alone!


Will you continue reading with me now?


Today, the Holy Spirit in me, has led me to discuss the Father's Way in Marriage. 

Let us begin with prayer, Father, Help us understand your message to us.  Reveal your Word to us in a very special way!  I praise you and thank you for all you have been doing in my own marriage after all of these years!  I pray that those who read this will receive the same beautiful and powerful blessings in their life; and in their marriage and family!  In Jesus Name we pray, Amen.




Let's go to the Scriptures to reference!  I hope this is a blessing to you both male and female!  I hope you stay with me for a little while to hear the message in this!  God loves us SO much!  I am a women writing this, but my eyes are on the Father God and I value my husband immensely!


"So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them 

(Genesis 1:27 KJV)."


"A man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God; but woman is the glory of man 

(1 Corinthians 11:7 )."


God is a God of Order and Structure!  This helps us begin to understand God's Structure in a marriage.


  • Man and Woman are Created as Equal Beings!  
YET, we are different on purpose! 
God has Created all things on purpose and with purpose! 
We have different functions in our marriage, yet we are created as equal beings!

  • Man and woman are Created as Equal Beings YET, The functions are what is different!!!  
Marriage is a team built on being helpers to each other!  Think about any team ... there has to be a leader; and there has to be a team, but neither the leader nor the team are good alone, the team needs each other! 
 
  • All teams need a coach.  We ALL need God!  We ALL need Jesus; and God has sent ALL WHO BELIEVE the Holy Spirit as our helper!  God knows we have these needs!  
A Coach knows the plays that work and can help us work in our roles well to win! 
So it is with God!  God knows the Truth, the Way and the Life!  God Created Male and Female!  All we have to do is DISCOVER the messages about the things that God has Created to live a life pleasing to God and live blessed with Wisdom in a marriage for success!  

God Created relationships and we can discover how to be successful in life through our relationships!

  • We need each other too!  God has given us the gift of other people to help us along in our our life of discovering how the miracle of LOVE works!  
Have you read the book that teaches about "The Crazy Cycle"?  I read two pages and the light bulb went off that for over 20 years this described me and my husband in our marriage! 

Ever since I have gained this knowledge, I have to pray and ask God for the courage and strength to break the "Crazy Cycle" ... "AS FAR AS IT DEPENDS ON ME" ... BECAUSE I CAN PLEASE GOD!  And, then the miracle happens!  Everything gets in order!  And, my husband notices my respect and responds to me with love!

Eyes WIDE OPEN ... we begin to implement good changes within our reactions to each other!  And guess what!  GOD'S WAY WORKED!

Several years later, the Lord has opened this avenue to share with you as I am still uncovering the mystery of this thing called marriage between a man and a women!  Two opposites -Yet, God was NOT laughing!  God designed us according to the structure in which all things work!

Perhaps this is a good time to introduce the magnet revelation?
Holding two magnets, I could feel the power of "pushing away" from each other when the magnets were facing each other! Two equal magnets in every way, just like man and woman in our beings!  We are created as equal beings, and YET, in our marriage, the times that I try to take the lead it just leads to an eventual mess!  

I am a leader by God's grace, but in my marriage, I know God has ordained my husband as the head of our household, which means I depend on my husband to lead.  If he is not leading, it is my job to help him lead (not take over).  

At times, in my strong personality, For our marriage, it was S L O W !!!  YET, little by little the marriage seemed to dull.  I never disrespected my husband in whole, but I was out of God's alignment as a wife. There have been many times that I have risen up in disrespect when I didn't "feel his love" and respect .... and justified my right to return disrespect that was not God's will.  

I had a lack of knowledge to know to do better, but God didn't leave me that way!

And, and husband the same!  Both God and my husband let me "get away with it (trying to lead)" for a long time and from time to time.  But, we both (and God) knew something was out of order!  
Please know that aligning in my function God's way is NOT demeaning!!!  It is like humility (strength UNDER God's Control)!  

Nothing in God's Kingdom is demeaning ... BUT Everything under the Sun has a purpose!!!

The 'Crazy Cycle' ...My husband always loves me, but when I am not showing him respect,  he wasn't patient and kind either (God's way of LOVE)!  One has to break the Cycle, but I am convinced that it is the woman's job 1st!  The man's job is to align under God and the woman's job it to align under her Godly husband.  Nothing will change unless the wife is willing to find the courage to pray and surrender to God's Will! 

The hard part is that we are Created as Equal Beings!  To surrender in function is a fight of the flesh, but it is a miracle in the Spirit to experience God's way working in the divine Structure of Marriage!

So we have both learned the value of staying in our roles of LOVE well, which is in our roles under God!  
God IS LOVE and HE who abides in LOVE abides in God and God in him.  

YES, it is WORTH IT!!!  

So, back to the magnets!  Facing each other, the magnets had a power force resistance against each other!  YET< Let the magnets fall into each other (one HAS to surrender UNDER the other!) ...and, you can plainly feel the power and peace as TWO like Magnets bond PERFECTLY together when in the correct  alignment, which is one under the other!!!

This is an example of God's Design in the institution of Marriage!  
  • God is the Creator!
  • A man is structured directly under God
  • A woman is structured directly under man
  • Both are accountable to God as equal beings!
  • God's Way Works!

As a diver puts on his gear to go under water to discover things about what is already Created, so can we open the Bible and Pray and discover things about everything in all of Creation ... INCLUDING things about how marriage is blessed by God!

I am sharing this post with you in steps!  This morning (June 12, 2015) 

(Early morning writing ... to be edited)

As I woke this morning, The Holy Spirit gave me a revelation that I could share examples from my own marriage.


  • The first revelation that I have come to understand is that the devil will be sure we are primed before we are tested!  Everything comes down to timing.  I have learned to trust God in HIS!  There is a blessing following our obedience to being patient and kind.

  • The second revelation that I have come to understand is that Satan (FIRST) went to the woman to tempt her -NOT the man!  Sure, I have thought this meant that women are more emotionally lead than men (and as this is true).  
I believe that the main point to grasp is that men and women are created and made equal in our beings, but not in our function. My husband helps me into God's emotions, when my human emotions are being strained by situations.  So it is both male and female have a divine talent as each other's helper.  I believe that he main point to grasp as that we need to as the Bible says, "Get understanding!"

So, yes emotions are part of a husband's duty to protect us under God's covering to help us in our discernment.  
But there is something else, the Holy Spirit has shown me that I hope you can see.  

We need to get understanding of God's Word for our self!  
Eve was told God's word about God's Command, but she heard it second hand.
We need to seek the Truth from God and get a fresh anointed message from God that perfectly fits into our life!  Get understanding!

  • In the first temptation, we can learn that as Eve only heard God's message repeated to her from Adam, she didn't have the deeper understanding of God's Word as did Adam, because God directly informed Adam one on one!  So we need to seek and MUST grasp deep UNDERSTANDING of God's message to us about all things, including in our marriage!  
Understanding is important in God's Word (Instructions for life), because WHEN we are tempted to step out of God's organized structure that works, we will find that we are well enabled to withstand the test and overcome the challenge to our faith, when we are with understanding and the power of God's LOVE that God gives us to put into all things we are to be successful in, including our marriage!

I would like to share a simple example from the other day!

Yesterday, and I might add, now with this understanding, (as far as the good LORD has given me this far into my marriage), I would like to share the revelation of God's Word and how this knowledge with understanding enabled us to work out one of those potential moments that could have led a husband and a wife into a argument. 

I am speaking of the argument kind(s) that never win! 
Good communication is good in a marriage, but God's method works!!!  Head strong pride does not!

So, this is how it all went down!

***   I was primed!   ***
HOW?  We were leaving the hospital and I am driving.  I am asking my husband questions.  These questions are arising out of my love and respect for him and I am doing my best to show my husband respect God's way!  I have learned that RESPECT IS God's Way of a wife showing her own husband love!  

So, I am driving with my mind focused on many things, mostly safe driving, direction and what is in my husband's best interest.  As moments went on, really it comes down to that I am needing to know which road direction to take.  
AND, the road I was to take DIRECTLY mattered how my husband was feeling!  Did he want to eat first or later????  It really mattered to me.

My husband was STILL preoccupied on his phone!  (PRIMED ... this is how I can describe primed today)

Primed, yes, "I am not feeling his love"  I will smile when I call my husband out on this now, but what this really means, if I am honest is that sometimes a wife does not feel like her husband is giving her "equal attention."  

Attention equals love to a "woman's emotions"!  See that word emotions again?  YET< please gain understanding that God gives us HIS emotion, which is JOY!  Joy is our strength to overcome temptations!

My husband and I have finally understood and are learning in that God's way that a marriage will excel!  

It is my responsibility to show my husband respect even when I don't see him showing me love's attention.  It is my husband's to show love (God's Way).  

In keeping with this testimony example of how something so small can grow so big, I am happy to share this silly, but real little story that just happened in my marriage!

I am remembering that love is patient and kind ... , so I continue to STRIVE in the LORD to show respect for the time, as my husband continues to ignore my questions that are for his benefit.  As far as I can see with my human eyes, my husband is more excited about work than being with his wife in this moment.  All I am doing at this point is holding my thoughts (WILL/words) ... taking CAPTIVE my thoughts ... as I roll my thoughts before the LORD in my head & holding my words still), but remember, I am being primed for the actual test!   

All I had in my human nature at that moment was a bit of God's patience; and I was only holding on with silent thoughts to please God.

But I had the most powerful gift of all!  I have the gift of the Holy Spirit!!!  And, the Holy Spirit is glad to help me when I am "Being holy" and pleasing God!
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THEN, THE REAL TEST for yesterday HAPPENED!
My husband looked up and began to tell me how to drive on purpose & to prove a point!  Now, I had a choice!  And, this time, I am glad to report, I simply prayed and asked God to help me out loud so as my husband knew what I was doing.  Smiles come soon!  My husband is not a jerk, but he can do things to bug me on purpose ... sometimes thisi the way that he even shows me love, by picking on me.  
Yet, this time, Rob justified his driving instructions as because "that is what you do to me" he said!  WOW, you can imagine the anger that reared up in me that he would warn me of the car I plainly saw in front of me with ample room to stop; as he so boldly looked up from his phone and said, "and try not to hit that car in front of you."  

Really, we could have easily began ranting back and forth, which never ends well.  Once upon a time, we would have for sure!  Yet, this time, I had placed myself in position to be heard!  Not just a nag from hurt emotions! 

Certainly, we are not the only ones who have these experiences???  This is just a simple demonstration of the power of God's Love in a marriage.  We've had many such experiences like this over the years ..., and before I learned better, these stories were not always so calm!  We laugh now and have many times laughed over our silly little fights that grew so big out of something so small.  And, like this one, we probably won't be able to tell you what the argument began over, unless we wrote it down.  

Everything in life passes ... What is important is what we learn through our trials!

We haven't improved alone in our marriage, this is how the POWER of God's LOVE that will work all things out!  And, this is just one such example of God's love just working it all out in our marriage!  I am just sharing this one this morning, because of the clarification and timing of God!

For one of my few times in our marriage, my response was different than my human emotions!  My response was based on "It is Written" and this fits in this series, discussing how we can discover how to live well in God's Creation!

I neither ignored; nor counter argued my husband's comment.  I merely communicated the TRUTH in real feelings; and expressed a truth that we both had come to know very well.

I said to my husband something that the Holy Spirit gave to me in that moment ... and we both were enabled by God's grace to smile in this beautiful Truth that SET US BOTH free from this temptation  that had a purpose to cause strife in our marriage. The temptation come to us, but the Truth and power of God's Love set us FREE!

My (Wife's) communication to my husband:  
"Your job is to be Godly patient and kind with me unconditional of the respect that comes to you from me in a similar time." 
"My job is to demonstrate Godly respect to you unconditional of your patience and kindness that comes to me.  
NOTE:  My husband is a good and Godly man, who is honorable and good.  He would never harm me, so the respect I can show him is as God directs.  
I said to my husband, Your job is to be patient and kind to me -show me love-understanding that is your duty from God.  Understanding that I only call out cars in front of you when I am really and concerned for safety.  It is not done on purpose, but just a part of who I am.  My definition of speed and close is somewhat different than my husband's.

HERE IS THE REVELATION!
I gently reminded my husband,
"You can't do to me what I do to you, just to prove a point that you don't like what I do to you!"

You are to do your job, which is to be patient and kind.
I am to do my job, which is to respect you.
I am to show you respect unconditionally, I CAN hold my tongue when things don't go  MY way!
My husband is to show me love unconditionally.  He CAN hold his tongue; and BE patient and kind WHEN I give him opportunities to loose his patience.  

A wife will present opportunities to a husband to loose patience and kindness; just as a husband will present opportunities to a wife to loose respect to a husband in certain things that we don't understand, but still we can show respect as it is pleasing to God ... and The Holy Spirit will bring us our WISDOM & Discernment from Heaven as our help and our shield!

These are challenges to our faith that we CAN demonstrate LOVE in our marriage God's Way!!! 

I am glad to report that my marriage is excelling to new and higher levels after all these years based on the knowledge and understanding in God's word that we both are actively applying in our relationship.! God is renewing our young love!

Recently, I read a quote that went something like this:  A marriage is an empty box when two people are joined in marriage.  We each must put love into the marriage to fill the box with love and joy and happiness!  I have my job as far as it depends on me!  Smiles ...

I hope this is a blessing to you.  I wish I had more time this morning.  Yet, duty calls and today is the last day of school!  I will be back to proof this for good communication as soon as the good Lord provides me with that time.  Meanwhile, pray and be patient and kind with me understanding that I only share my story to encourage you in yours!

Pray, read the Bible and strive to please God in all that you do!  Get to know your Creator as your Father as He is when you first believe on Jesus as your Savior!  Believing and Obedience to God's Word keeps you near to the voice of God though the power of the Holy Spirit!

God is the Judge, the Holy Spirit convicts, our job is to LOVE and Pray!  

Blessings to you!
Love in Christ, 
Karen Rowe 
Hope in Today Ministries
The Train Whistle, Sounding the call of God's Love


     AS A DIVER PUTS ON HIS GEAR 
         TO GO UNDER THE WATER
          TO DISCOVER THINGS ABOUT 
          WHAT IS ALREADY Created; 
   WE CAN DISCOVER things about 
GOD'S LOVE!
 
 
 



God's Will is His thoughts that have actions.


The definition of our will is the same, but our thoughts may be different than God's!

Several years later, the Lord has opened this avenue to share with you as I am still uncovering the mystery of this thing called marriage between a man and a women! 
 Two opposites -Yet, God was NOT laughing!  God designed us according to the structure in which all things work!
 
 
Facing each other, the (equal) magnets had a power force resistance 
against each other!  
YET< Let the magnets fall into each other 
(ONE HAS TO surrender UNDER the other!) ...and, you can plainly feel the power and peace as TWO like Magnets bond PERFECTLY together when in the correct  alignment, which is one under the other!!!

One Marriage UNDER God WORKS!
 
It is my responsibility to show my husband respect even when I don't see him showing me love's attention.
 
All I had in my human nature at that moment was a bit of God's patience; and I was only holding on with silent thoughts to please God.

But I had the most powerful gift of all!  

I have the gift of the Holy Spirit!!!

And, the Holy Spirit is glad to help me when I am "Being holy" and pleasing God!
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